PART 4 - INSTILLING THE TRUTH

Instilling The Truth

A Still Small Voice

My heart is heavy. My vision blurred.

My body feels like a cement block. My breathing is labored. The darkness of despair presses in on me. I no longer see the light. I’m dying. I’m dying physically. I’m dying emotionally. I’m dying spiritually. I’m numb. I feel nothing. I close my eyes. I wait. I have a strange peace knowing I will not see morning, and I’m glad.

Out of the darkness I hear a whisper in my ear. “Mother, it’s me. Your daughter. I love you. I understand you cannot bear this pain. It’s OK to go if you must. I will be OK. I will trust God with my life. You do not have to worry. I know and I understand. It’s OK.”

Then, I feel a sweet kiss on my cheek and something slipped under my pillow and the silence comes again. I pull this from under my pillow and read it.

“Hast thou not known?… that the everlasting God,
the Lord… fainteth not, neither is weary?…
He giveth power to the faint, and to them that
have no might, He increaseth strength.”

“They that wait upon the Lord
shall renew their strength.”

Is. 41:28-31

In this moment… my world would be changed forever.

I realized I hadn’t actually lost EVERYTHING.

I realized what I still had and it’s MASSIVE VALUE.

An unselfish and unconditional love was bestowed on me by my dear daughter; that I couldn’t deny.

It would become my life’s greatest lesson.

 

I BEGAN TO PRAY:

Dear God, Please forgive me for not cherishing what remains. Take my heart and make with it what you may. If you take me tonight give me peace and assurance and take care of my family. If you let me live… I will serve you and be the best mother you can make me. I will live and love as if I’d never been broken. I will never look back. I’m truly yours forever.

Then I closed my eyes and fell into a deep sleep.

A New Day Dawns Healing Religious Trauma

A New Day Dawns

The sun shone through the blinds right into my eyes and woke me.

I looked around and realized it was morning and I was still here.

My thoughts began to race. I’m going to live. But how?

  • How will I support myself alone? 
  • How will I ever recover my health and strength?
  • What will my life look like now?

And then I heard a voice. A “still small voice” behind me, saying

Be Inspired. Stand Strong. Pass It On.

I didn’t know for certain what those words meant but I did know the grief that consumed me wasn’t going to take my life. In fact, I knew I was going to live and go down a path I’d never known before.

A path full of promises of inspiration, strength, and service.

A sure path that was designed especially for me, my daughter, my whole family, and those I would serve. I needed nothing else but those words. I crawled out of bed, across the floor, and to the bathroom to wash my face. I showered and dressed, and though weak, trembling, and shaky, started my new life.

Inspiration

An Inspired Journey

I believe that all true healing and transformation begins with INSPIRATION.

Inspiration directly from God to us individually. It’s what FINALLY gave me true motivation, and got me out of bed that day. It’s a wonderful thing when this happens after a lifetime of the wrong kinds of motivation behind every act and every relationship.

Direct inspiration and the right motivation brought me awareness, and then total freedom! With these things in place, I began to see a clear path before me filled with true principles, a plan of salvation that made sense, and a God who’s character, methods, and love, touched my heart in ways I’d never known before.

My experiences became genuine, my connections authentic, which brought real transformation in my life. All of these things then gave me a new and meaningful mission and purpose.

Later, in my work as a Life Coach, I was able to bring people through the same process I went through, celebrating each milestone along the path with them. The experience for me started with unraveling my trauma, then as my journey progressed, I began instilling the truths God was teaching me, and then He and I created a new story for my life.

I learned how to plug into the TRUE SOURCE of Love, Light, and Power, and unplug from the FALSE SOURCE of deception, falsehoods, and misrepresentations. I began to apply true principles in my life.

Finally, the inside parts of me began to align with my actual life and experiences.

This is the outcome of true transformation.

No longer did I feel like an imposter inside. This process gave me the freedom I had always envisioned for my life. I was now truly free.

Free indeed!

Debra Shafer

Becoming A True Student

"When the student is ready, the teacher appears.”

Life is truly our “Education Book” and anything and all things in our lives are our teachers. When the “trauma patterns” began to heal, and I became a “true student,” God began helping me to see just how many teachers I really had all around me. How He had already made provision for me.

The “Life Experiences” and the “Divine Appointments” came one after another in quick succession in various shapes and forms.

And now, 10 years after my true healing journey began, I just expect it.

I look for it.

I expect people to show up in my life right on time.

I expect circumstances to arise right on time.

I expect the “lesson of trials” to appear right on time.

I expect God’s tender care to emerge right on time.

God has used so many people and circumstances in my life to teach me and help me grow and help me heal.

And He’ll do it for you too!

When we go through life with “Our Eyes Wide Open” we will see ALL He has ordained for us. We will truly be filled with “His Abundance” in every way. We will begin to understand “that great mystery” of His Merciful Loving-Kindness for us personally.

“All trials that are received as educators will produce joy.” E.G. White

STEPS TO RECOVERY Healing Religious Trauma

The Healing Process

THE PATH OF HEALING for my own journey looked something like this:

Unravel the Trauma
→INSPIRATION →MOTIVATION →AWARENESS →FREEDOM

Instill the Truth
→TRUE PRINCIPLES →THE SCIENCE OF SALVATION →THE METHODS & TECHNIQUES OF JESUS

Create a New Story
→GENUINE EXPERIENCES →AUTHENTIC CONNECTIONS →TRUE TRANSFORMATION →LIFE PURPOSE

There isn’t time in this small book to go into depth on the healing process I experienced and teach to others, but if you are interested in pursuing this method further, I’ve created an entire course called:

HEALING RELIGIOUS TRAUMA – The Path to a Healthy Relationship with God

This “Experience Path” will help you to unravel your religious trauma story, instill the truth, and create a new story for your life. It takes you on a journey of freedom from the indoctrination of man and the trauma patterns it creates, to a deeply connected experience with God and those around you. The aim of this path is to find freedom to use the individual gifts and talents God created in you, and help you live a meaningful life, with purpose. You’ll find information about it in the back of this book.

Now, as promised, I’d like to end by telling a story that may represent YOU right now, and/or YOU in the future.

It’s called, “THE TALE OF TWO BELIEVERS” and sums up the entire process of true transformation.

What it looks like from the beginning →to the end, including everything in the “messy middle”.

It’s the tale of my own journey, distilled and condensed.

From then “insecure victim” → to “brave warrior” (soldadera).

It begins with the story of Martha and Mary. Two very different sisters. Then merges into “two archetypes”, Martha Lynn and Mary Jo (names changed to protect the innocent) who represent and define the beginning and the end of the journey of “healing from religious trauma”.

This story will bring together everything you’ve read so far. It reveals the entire process I went through and is intended to give courage to those that are just stepping onto the path of “true” transformation for themselves. If that’s you, turn to the next chapter. Enjoy!